June 18, 2014

Love is…

If you are married or in a relationship you know it can be frustrating and overwhelming.  Our greatest joy is the ones we love but at the same time they are often who we hurt the most and say the worst things too.  Too often I am not considerate or kind of Leah because of stresses or because after 17 years together we are comfortable with each other.

Monday night Leah called me to make sure I was coming home by 5:30 after work to make sure she could go to her Zumba workout.  To be honest I was a little frustrated  with her because  she had already asked me and I had already agreed to be home early so why was she nagging me?

When I got home Leah was waiting for me with all kinds of things that she had done for me. First off ,she canceled zumba workouts, then set up babysitting for our kids and planned a surprise date for me.  Now if you’re a man reading this your idea of a good date is dinner, movie and hopefully something good happens at the end of the night :)! But that’s because we want to do what both of us would like to do.  In a dream world a date would  look a little different but that would be selfish and I don’t bring it up.

That is however exactly what Leah set up for me Monday night.  We left the house around 6:30pm and she wouldn’t tell me where we were going, she just asked that I wear something I wouldn’t mind getting sweaty in.  Honestly I was a little nervous because I don’t do well with surprises but I went with it.  To my surprise, after a 25 minute drive we pulled into Gravitopia in Greenville.  Gravitopia is a 30,000 square foot facility full of trampolines…AMAZING! Now I’m not old, but I’m certainly not a teenager anymore either and I was hurting after our hour of jumping, attempting flips, dunking 12′ basketball goals, belly flopping into huge foam pits it was bliss for this man.


After our hour at Gravitopia, we went to Golfsmith to hit balls and look at all the amazing golf equipment.  After spending another 45 minutes at golfsmith, we left for a romantic dinner at The Waffle House.  That is man cave paradise right there!  This man loves golf and The Waffle House so for me it was a night of pure Bliss!  The night was bliss because my wife is an amazing woman and wanted to do something special for me for father’s day that I would remember and I certainly will.

While thinking back on Monday night I was reminded of Paul’s letter to the Corinthian people in 1 Corinthians 13.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.  1 Corinthians 13:4-8 ESV

 Love is so many things to so many people and we all show and receive love in different ways but Leah showed me love by setting up a date for us she knew I would love.  I learn so much from Leah and her kindness, tenderness and Love to me and our amazing kids.  For marriages to last we must put our spouses above ourselves and love them more than our own bodies.  I am so grateful for the woman of God in my life.  I love you Leah Pangel.  You are a blessing in so many ways.